mystic_savage

Just talked to Penny on the phone, who told me she lost her purse at school.  A lot of responses occurred to me very quickly (see?  I told you you were too young to have a purse at school?  or  oh, sweetie -- did you have any money in it?  here, let me make it up to you).  I used a technique I used yesterday in the parenting workshop:  "What's your plan for finding it?" She told me in detail her plan about where she would look and whom she would ask, and then I used another technique and asked her if I could add a suggestion.  She said "sure."  I said, "You might ask Karen if she has any suggestions.  She's a pretty good resource."  Penny said she wanted to try her plan first and then if she still couldn't find it she would ask Karen.

What I loved about this conversation is that it showed me how resourceful Penny is.  She had a problem; she had a plan for solving the problem.  I'm interested in seeing how it turns out.  And I also love that I was able to end the conversation with "I'm proud of you for having such a thorough plan" rather than ending the conversation with something like "well, you'd better find that purse" or worse. 

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