Sat, Mar. 21st, 2009, 02:44 pm
The State of Virginia

Have the kids this weekend.  They went with James to hapkido this morning while Karen and I figured out the materials list for Penny's loft.  Ok.  To be honest, Karen figured it out and I just asked a lot of annoying questions ("So...the little quotation marks are inches, right?") (which, thank Christopher Guest, I happened to know because of the Stonehenge scene in Spinal Tap).  I hate math and sort of dread this project.  Next step is to buy the lumber and get it home (two challenges there in the lack of $$ and lack of reliable transportation -- lack of $$ is the big one).  Final step is to build the danged thing, which I think Karen would just do for me if I keep Sam and Tera for a few hours so she can work uninterrupted.  Karen loves this sort of thing.  I'm kind of useless at it.

BUT: three loads of laundry are completely done and folded, and I just finished a load of dishes & will be watching Sam & Tera this evening so Karen & James can be out for awhile. Also?  I fed everyone lunch.  Not bad for someone whose self-concept is that she is completely lazy & irresponsible and unwilling to do anything that resembles work.

Tomorrow is a self-sacrificing visit to Hell on Earth Family Fun Center.  The plan is to get there the minute it opens and leave an hour later, before it gets too crowded.  I can't tell you how much I really, really hate going places that are loud or have a lot of people in them.  But going there is part of the Being A Better Parent intention I set at the parenting workshop I took last month.  I realized that I'm pretty good at being a fun parent at home, but that I never take the kids anywhere to do something that is fun for them unless another adult initiates it.  And even then I go under protest.  So this Family Fun Center thing?  It was my idea, and the first of a potentially large number of such outings.

Monday is the beginning of the "Living Well with Chronic Conditions" workshop series I'm doing at group health.  I think I know everything about it already, but I'm trying to stay open to the possibility that I might actually learn something that will improve my quality of life.  One key issue I've identified is that there are challenges unique to living with a condition that is mostly hidden and never bothers me--until it does.  One of the challenges is even remembering that I have a condition and taking care of myself in a way that avoids its symptoms.



Sat, Mar. 21st, 2009 10:29 pm (UTC)
[info]kyano

Oh My Goodness, why oh why pick what we in my house call "Kiddie Vegas" as an outing adventure? Ugh. Even under the "best" of circumstances, I effing hate that place and it always makes my daughter behave like a crazed junkie looking for a fix. Sorry to be a downer, but IMHO you should pick stuff that will be fun for you AND them, not just them. That is part of taking care of yourself too. :-)

I wish you the best of luck tomorrow.

Sat, Mar. 21st, 2009 11:09 pm (UTC)
[info]mystic_savage: Kiddie Vegas

Because it was their first choice and because they had complete consensus that it was what they wanted to do, which is rare. Because it is part of their culture and I want to be conversant in it. Because we have boundaries around it and will be leaving after an hour. And because I went for a birthday party a couple of weeks ago and survived it, and had that strange exhilaration that comes with defying death. Call me a thrill-seeker--it was the next best thing to bungee-jumping naked into a pit of venomous reptiles. What a ride!

Sun, Mar. 22nd, 2009 07:23 am (UTC)
[info]kyano: Re: Kiddie Vegas

Ahhhh! I understand. Consensus is a good thing (and defying it is difficult). Good job establishing boundaries around it. R has been to 2 b-day parties there and I find the habitrail portion of that to be the least abhorent, but I hate all the ticket games. An outing with them doesn't need to be totally kid-centered to be entertaining to them... I am thinking of the beach, or the aquarium, or Pike Place Market... They all have things in them that I find appealing too, and I feel more like I am spending my time with her and less like I am sacrificing it for her.

That was all I was saying. Find a place that appeals to you both.

Sat, Mar. 21st, 2009 11:10 pm (UTC)
[info]mystic_savage

Besides, honestly? Leaving the house is never fun for me. I can't imagine anything kid-centered that is even remotely fun, not if it's out of the house and there will be other people there.

Sun, Mar. 22nd, 2009 12:12 am (UTC)
[info]cornute

What those places need is a "quiet room" completely enclosed by glass so that you can see your kids, but not have to listen to the whole place.

When I was married, my husband WORKED at a "Family Fun Center" place. Oh, the tales.

Mon, Mar. 23rd, 2009 03:56 am (UTC)
[info]mystic_savage

That'd be good, but then I'd be worried that someone would take them if I lost sight of them for an instant. I'm really kind of a glued-to-the-hip type of mom in public settings. Today ended up fun, actually. The key was getting there the minute it opened and only staying for an hour. And the kids were great.

Sun, Mar. 22nd, 2009 03:20 am (UTC)
[info]brithistorian

All in all, it sounds like you've gotten a lot of good things done and have more coming up. For all of your self-image of laziness, it sounds like you're doing a good job of taking care of things.

Mon, Mar. 23rd, 2009 03:57 am (UTC)
[info]mystic_savage

Thanks.