Have been turning this around for a couple of days in my head. When I was in the psyche ward (20 some years ago) I used to do a here and now inventory. Yes, I was locked up and miserable, but when I focused on the moment I was safe (check), warm enough (check), fed (check), in a comfortable chair (check), had a cup of coffee in hand (check), etc, etc, etc. Sometimes doing that kind of inventory can get me into the moment. But in relationships--or, more specifically--when I'm being sexual or romantic with someone, I am less in the *moment* and more into *them*. Hm. That last bit gives me a thought about how I'd rather be with a partner. Thanks for the questions.
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